Today in China,many families have only one child. So the children usually doted upon by all family members. Gradually some of them get used to depending on their parents and family members,as a result they lack the ability to face their lives by themselves. There are some ways to help children to be independent. First,the child should have a chance to see the world around him individually to understand that there are various people and competitions in their lives,and learn to find his right position in the society only by individual efforts. Second,it is impossible to ask a child not to depend on parents at once. he parents may give the child enough help and space to make him feel comfortable. A child needs help from their families. Without any help,the child may lose his faith. Thirdly,parents can help their children make their own decisions,which can challenge his ability to deal with problems. A child should be praised when he is successful or encouraged when he fails. To be independent is vital for the children,because no parents can