2012年9月22日雅思大作文真题:the Unconfusing Family Environment

Children will be happy when their family environment is not confusing, and you may as well be sure that their happiness does not simply rely on being richer, safer and healthier. In some countries, children being spoiled one way or another do not appear to be as happy as they are thought to be, due mainly to their parents' wrong attitudes concerning respect and discipline. It is possible that you could make your child happier if you could remember to act like an adult and not a child, and also as a boss and not as a friend that you intend to be. Naturally, father and mother are responsible for making a child as happy as possible by being a parent in the traditional sense of the word Too often you are inclined to pretend to be like a child to get your child to like you, which is no less than confusing to an immature mind. Chances are that you might be viewed as a child rather than a parent, not knowing that a child actually needs an adult Dad and Mom in the normal environment. By and by, your child will not respect you, and the lack of respect does not generate happiness because your child needs you to be a parent, not a child. At this point, a happy child is one who takes the advantage of normal parenting, far from playing a childish role. That means that while you must listen to your children and not to ignore them, you should never forget playing the role of a a kissing parent and a scolding parent on different occasions. Likewise, a child is not happy if discipline is missing at home. You ought to act like a boss and tell your children when they do wrong and correct them, and even punish them if necessary, because this could help make a child happier at heart. It may be said that a happy child is one who is taught to distinguish what is the right thing to do and what is not. In other words, young children in particular need parents to have authority to run the family government properly, otherwise the situation might turn out to be confusing sometimes. These days, there are cases in which children seem to be in charge, as this can be seen in the way parents obey their children. Also, it is not uncommon nowadays that the parent-child relationship is apparently based on peer friendship rather than family discipline, thus allowing a child to feel like an "unhappy" commander-in-chief in the family. As an adult and boss, both parents are supposed to understand that their children could be even happier if they are asked to follow the rules regarding respect and discipline. Of course, money, safety and health are always important to childhood happiness; nevertheless, a child should be treated strictly as a child without causing any confusion. For that matter, you cannot expect a very confused child to be very happy, can you?